About

I help you grow in awareness of your resources, opportunities, and obstacles so you can make better decisions and build closer relationships.

As a Christian Spiritual Formation Coach, I help you become more aware of your interior self—the person that God has been fashioning all your life—and his current invitations to you, supporting you as you clarify and expand your sense of his calling.

Why trust me as your coach?

I bring over forty years of experience helping people discover the resources God has given them in Christ, as well as the very way he’s made their personalities and formed them through the hard knocks of their experiences.

I provide a safe setting where you can think out loud and feel understood. I help you make progress on tough things like pivoting in your career, aging, transitions, deepening your marriage, parenting, or pastoring, and caregiving for aging parents or other seniors who are declining and dying.

I’ve had the opportunity to study and teach on practical theology—all those years—how to get through painful trials, fear, doubt, relational conflict, and addictions.

I also bring many experiences of failure and hard-earned self-awareness through suffering.

Thirteen years ago, I went through a personal financial crisis that led me to resign from a pastoral role. It was both the most difficult and the most precious time in my life, as I learned more about the grace, mercy, and love of God than I ever did from books. During that time, my wife and I went through several transitions: career changes, moving our home, leaving a faith community, becoming empty nesters, and losing our parents.  

I’ve come to see that failure and weakness are resources or assets if we are willing to learn from them. When I help a person become more self-aware, failure is one of the things we look for—how it can aid your growth.

That is why I am passionate about helping pastors and ex-pastors recover from firing, failure, disappointment, or burnout.

Failing, weaknesses, and learning to present my vulnerable true self to people have been a miracle I never could have imagined. In fact, at one time, my life was full of the fear of being known—even to myself.  Two books by David Benner were life-changing in this regard: The Gift of Being Yourself and Sacred Companions.

This led to a whole new way of being a friend and a helper, which involves listening, prizing individuality, fostering togetherness, and overcoming the fear of vulnerability. Being yourself does not require detaching from others.    

I’m a 66-year-old husband, father, friend, and chaplain who’s finding that, even at this age, I’m still discovering more layers of brokenness within myself. But I’m hopeful and motivated for transformation.

I write here on my blog and on Substack about the power of the stories we tell ourselves to either hold us back or move us forward in our growth as Christians.

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