For the last ten years or so, instead of cultivating admirers, I’ve been quietly investing hours and hours in two friendships.
Arthur Brooks tells us “decline is unavoidable. But aging isn’t all bad news. There are some specific ways in which we naturally get smarter and more skillful.”
Brooks found that “people who strive to be excellent at what they do often wind up finding their inevitable decline terrifying, their successes increasingly unsatisfying.”
A growing sense of absence followed Dad’s fall. I was on my own. There was no hand to hold me.
Surely, you’ve gone through periods where you had a song on “repeat.” But not necessarily because the music made your feel good.